Let's jump on 6 practical tips to get better at starting Tinder conversations.
Observe, and be creative
The best openers are for sure original ones. They are clever, creative, and not used by everyone else on Tinder yet. If you want to break the ice, this is a good place to start!
Take your time before sending anything. Observe details in pictures. Bounce on some.
This creativity can be trained outside of dating apps. Finding that perfect little line that is likely to break a smile on the other's person face. Get inspirations from others.
It takes time and effort to develop those skills, but always so worth it!
It's definitely better to take some time writing something than send an off-the-cuff message right away. You can always come back after if the effect is not what you wanted
Start strong and take risks
Don't be afraid to open a conversation with something that most people wouldn't even think about using, because it could work out great! Don’t just use one opener all the time. If you do, then your matches will get tired of seeing the same line over and over again.
Taking risks is super important too. Like I said earlier, you need to differentiate yourself from your competition. The best tinder openers for guys are risky!
Will this be done by a timid and very classic "hello"? Or something bold, that will likely trigger curiosity, or the need to come back on it?
Say what you think, what the pictures inspire you. Someone stating what he truly believes is always very sexy and attractive.
Find general lines
Ok, creativity and tailored lines are great. Don't get me wrong. It is however awesome to have general lines to fall back to.
Not that you need to completely copy-paste them. Think of them more as a backbone, a structure to come back to. We wrote about openers to use in this article.
Lines can be like pictures. People's take on them tells you how good they are. Try out many, keep the bests, dump the rest. With some trial and error, you will quickly find which works for you and your personality.
Be aware of the vibe
A conversation between two persons can be completely different, depending on the vibe set. We have all experienced that. Having those formal discussions with teachers or colleagues during the daytime. That becomes way more fun at night around beers.
That is the same on dating apps such as Tinder or Bumble. Starting on a formal tone, or a too formal subject will push the other person to adopt the same tone.
Being aware of this is key. Reflect on the vibe your first message implies: "Mr nice guy hello line"? Something unuseful or confrontational? Something the other person is likely to answer with a YES/NO. Or on the opposite something that does not waits for a response at all?
Many questions to ask yourself here!
Open when you feel good
Having a good dating profile is important, we help you out on this with ROAST. However, you are the one doing the texting. You, behind your screen.
And big news, you have emotions! Sometimes you feel good, energetic, and ready to meet other people. Other times, you feel tired and just want to be alone.
Would you go and talk to someone you like when you feel terrible? I guess not! Well, it works the same way with dating apps.
For sure you can text from your bed, but do not do it if you feel super bad! Vibes are communicative. The other person will feel it, in the timing, choice of words, and so on.
The best Tinder conversations are the ones that match both persons' vibe! Be aware of all those little changes in your moods. If it does not work out one day, no problem. It can always happen again on another day when you feel better!
Spread positive vibes.
Think as if you have nothing to lose
Matching someone you seem to like on Tinder or Bumble or Hinge, or any other dating app is a great start.
No one can predict the likelihood of something happening with that person after! Don't get carried over. Do not get over yourself. If you fall for the virtual image of the person, you will hold yourself back and are likely to appear super hesitant.
On the other hand, if you go in the conversation with the mindset "It will be fun, we will see what happens". You are likely to enjoy yourself, tickle the other person. At the end likely to have a good time, and leave a funny and witty impression.
Exactly what you want on Tinder or Dating apps!